Communication

          I feel ease while communicating with different people, and I am not afraid of stepping in a conversation with a stranger, and even then, find some common or simply fascinating topics to talk about. As the test results present, ESFP people are the life of the party, when in good mood or when feel well about the surroundings. I possess a great level of empathy- therefore, it is easy to find a common ground for developing new relationships. I tend to adapt quickly, enabling me to feel comfortable even with people who I do not know that well. I have no problem of creating relaxed lively atmosphere and approach on people in an open way. This strategy, however, might scare away some people who have larger personal space, need more time to adapt or feel I act in an inappropriate way.

          Even though I am able to start a talk with almost anyone, I am not particularly interested in too theoretical topics and usually, this kind of discussions fatigue me and I am mostly only sacrificing my effort and time to possess larger social circle or sweep my tediousness away. After I feel I really cannot concentrate, I try to change a topic or find an excuse to sneak away to find more interesting people to talk with. However, I do it in a very diligent way, not to harm any person’s feelings- I do not have the heart to say that the topic is absolutely boring for me.

          As in prior, also this time, the ENFP type adds some additional values to my profile. I want to understand and help people, offering quite often my time to listen to concerns of my fellow mates. The type specifies that the way I communicate is shortly put in the formulas: the opportunity to offer assistance vs. lack; and acceptance vs. rejection. I feel well when I can approach on people, and have the opportunity to help them and receive acceptance by the person and the others. Conversely, it hurts my feelings when I encounter withdrawal and rejection. Therefore I am often ready to put more effort in understanding the feelings of another person, to get closer to his/her soul.

          Although I feel I communicate with ease, I need some interaction, some fascinating topics, otherwise, when the talks become too monotonous, I get bored and instead of listening, I just pretend I am still there, but in fact, my mind is already somewhere far away.

          I have a large circle of friends and acquaintances with very different interest- I try to keep in contact with them time after time, but sometimes new contacts decrease the density of meetings or messages of my older emotional ties. This happens, even more, the more I travel and spend time with foreign friends. It is easier to keep in touch with your mates but gets more difficult when there are hundreds or thousands of kilometres separating you and you both have your daily routine, obligations and local friends who rely on. 

          My circle of friends and contacts is expanding, reaching more an international level than local Estonian community, but also weakens in the periphery areas. Now, after almost three years of university life in Tallinn, I do not have any contact with my high school or even basic school mates and friends. Mainly because my chosen path differs a lot from theirs. The majority stayed in Tartu or close to Jõgeva (where I was born). It was my decision and there are no regrets in this- I am proud to feel European and International cell in this globalising world.